A special Mother’s Day message for you!

Happy Mother’s Day!

To all the first time moms–

Congratulations and may God grant you the wisdom, patience and understanding as you move forward on your journey of Motherhood! Yes!

To all the moms-to-be–

May God grant you a healthy pregnancy and peace of mind. Congratulations are also in order!Woo Hoo! May this Mother’s Day be a gentle reminder of the many blessings ahead.

To all the Mother’s who have lost a child–

You are not forgotten. God is seeing you through each day and although this holiday may bring unwanted pain and sadness, He is with you and you are not alone. May God comfort you today and renew your strength.

To all the step/foster moms–

You are simply amazing! Look at you! You’ve dedicated your life to helping, nurturing, caring for and loving a child that isn’t biologically yours, however, you do it with grace! Because of your obedience and the call on your life, supernatural favor and provision is on your life. Love it! Continue serving in your greatness!

 

To all the women who desire to be moms–

Hold tight. God hasn’t forgotten about you. You thought that things would be different. You expected to be a mom by now but God had other plans. I know it’s painful if you’ve been trying but trust the process and know that everything happens for a reason and in God’s timing. Know that what is for you in this season is for you. I know that God will grant you the desires of your heart if it is in his will for your life. You are blessed! Start speaking positives over your life.

To All the Single Moms–

I love you for all that you do. You possess amazing strength, grace and a heart of gold. God has his hand on you and will lift you up in due time. He will provide for you and grant you the peace and understanding that will help you along your journey and through any difficult moment. Trust and believe.

To ALL Moms–

God understands whatever it is you are going through and will give you the clarity and peace of mind over it. I hope that in this season of acceleration, you are released from anything that is keeping you stuck. Anything that is causing you unnecessary confusion because mama, you are on your way!

HappyMother's Day

 

In my honest opinion:

  • Every day should celebrate moms because we rock!
  • Moms are naturally blessed beyond measure and God has his hand on you!
  • I hope your day is filled with peace, love, laughter, renewal, gratitude, thanksgiving, acceleration and abundance. Great things are coming for you!

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Why did I start my blog?

Single moms…where you at?

I started this blog for women specifically but especially for single moms who are on a journey toward self-improvement with God-focused intentions. They LOVE God. They are working moms who love inspirational, empowering and encouraging messages. These moms love spending time with family, friends and being apart of a community that influences change. These moms are actively finding ways to improve their personal and professional relationships. These moms desire marriage within God’s will. These moms don’t want to experience the hurt, pain and confusion they once went through in the past but are willing to open their hearts to love and accepting it in return. These moms are all about expanding their potential by creating projects that are connected to their purpose. These moms may feel stuck, defeated or void of creativity at times but they have ambition and self-determination that pushes them through.  These moms have dealt with their share of disappointment and heartbreak but dare not to allow that to hinder their progress. These moms are all about finding ways to heal, restore and live life to the fullest. Now, this is self-LOVE at its finest!

My intention is to remind moms of their greatness and worth, despite the short comings that happen along the way.-Ms. Kris

 

Why am I so passionate about single mamas?

Well…I’m a single mom. Finding a blog that related to the specific issues pertinent to my story was difficult.  I wasn’t connecting to some of the blogs I followed at the time because they were either geared toward married women or overly religious matters. Heck, sometimes they would be way too general and I didn’t have a clue how to even begin to relate.

I wanted to be able to go to a place that connected with me and my grown single mama “ish”… ya know.

A place where I could vibe out at the same beat. A place where advice is given on the most relatable topics that a single mom may deal with at one point or another like:

  • Parenting issues
  • Baby daddy drama
  • Financial woes
  • Toxic relationships
  • Dating dilemmas
  • Working full-time and going to school part-time while raising a 2-year old
  • Spiritual awareness
  • Self-awareness

Yup, all of this is something I could have used….

Now…

You can find several blogs that cater to single moms but nevertheless, I still had the desire to put my pen to paper and write. I wanted to write with the freedom of expression and put my own unique spin on the same topics mentioned above.

Sooooo…

Here I am: A blogger. One of the truths I’ve discovered about myself while on this journey is this: I believe in the healing properties of transparency and story telling. Blogging was definitely necessary to help me accomplish just that.

Besides, I wouldn’t feel right if I wasn’t activating all that God told me to do in the first place.

At first,

I was so scared to start my very first blog, http://www.msblackexpat.com. That blog highlighted my experiences as a black women living abroad and all the issues related.

I remember being all in my feelings…

What will people think?

Who will actually read it?

What will I write about?

Will it help someone?

Then, one day out of the blue, I said no to fear and wrote my very first post. I wanted to help someone else and finally face my fears.

Had I not decided to share, someone may have missed out on being encouraged, healed or saved from heartbreak. Maybe I encouraged someone else to start their blog. Who knows. Are you interested in starting your own blog?

Starting this blog is apart of my purpose!

Here are some comments from a few of my followers in the past year.

These right here motivate me to keep pushing. Go girl, go!

  • Thanks for the words of encouragement sister.
  •  “Awesome! Love the uplifting message.”
  •  “Nice Blog Post!!! You are a great writer!!”
  •  “Thank you for the powerful message.”
  •  “Awesome blog! I’m glad you faced your fears!”
  • “Brilliant! I’m re-blogging this positive message. Peace.”
  • “Great advice and well said! Beautifully Written!!!”
  • “Loved this line, “He (God) sees our capabilities, trials and now testimonies and wants us to be in greater position to help others who are going through similar situations. I needed that today”
  • “I really enjoyed this! Good piece!”
  • “Love it! Totally using the I can statements and adding them to my affirmations.”
  • “This is beautiful. We all must go on a journey finding our worth. I am strong, safe, beautiful and loved and no one can stop me from believing that! I am so in love with your blog and the positive vibes you’re sending.”
  • “Thank you very much for your inspiring words that have truly touched me. Today, I’m going to only allow the positives in my life no more negatives.”

If you are thinking about starting a blog, please, just go for it.  Need some help getting started? I’d love to help you. Contact me. Let’s get started!

Remember that its never too late to start because your story, creativity, transparency and obedience is necessary for someone else’s growth and healing.

God Bless.

 

 

 

 

April, why did you have to be so stank?

April, why were you soooo stank?

Funky!

Straight up foul.

Stinky.

April was a very, very tough month for me. I dealt with loss, heartache, heartbreak, confusion, pain, sadness, emotional struggles—-I had the April blues and there was no denying that.

It’s a bit cliché’ but this is the first time that I actually related this particular statement to my life: April Showers bring May flowers–or–(sunshine, clarity, a shift)–whatever you’d like to coin it as. I never understood quite what that meant until now.

While you’re in the storm of life, it can be very difficult to see the rainbow…

You hope for more. You desire better. You pray for change. Then, there is more pain, sadness, cycles, tears and confusion. It happens. But…wait…there’s a reason for it all.

April needed to be a little stank…

What I learned is this, although April was a bit stank for me, I actually gained from the pain. The pain taught me to:

  • Understand my perseverance
  • Appreciate my strength
  • Realize my capacity for love
  • Accept the truth for what it is
  • Believe that what’s for me is for me
  • Be kind to myself
  • Accept seasonal shifts

Check your thoughts..

The one thing that is so important through a difficult season is your thoughts.

What was I thinking about and how did it change my mood, actions and overall feelings? Are the thoughts positive? Negative? Based on fear? Check your thoughts. That may be what’s holding you back.  Believe me, once those thoughts change, YOU will change…for the better.

Sooner or later…

There WILL be a breakthrough from the pain.

You know the song, “Sooner or later it will turn in your favor.” It’s by Vashawn Mitchell, Turning Around For Me.  I’m actually listening to it now as I write this.

Expect a “suddenly” shift. The “suddenly” shift that I’m referring to will change your perception so you can see things differently. You have to want to shift. It can’t be someone else’s suggestion. You must decide that I am NOT going to stay down anymore because you recognize when it’s time for you to move forward with joy and a renewed spirit.

Be in expectation for greater because you are…simply amazing.

Push!

So, it’s only the 4th of the month but I already feel a shift. I feel a shift in my spirit. I feel a shift in my mind. I feel a shift in my perspective. I feel a shift in my peace. Even if you are in your difficult season, please know that a shift is coming. Shifts are necessary.

So put on your smile and….push! You got this!

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In hindsight, I am in appreciation for April’s stank moment. God has your back and will come through on HIS timing! Know your worth and work on you. In due time, EVERYTHING else will fall into place. 🙂

I’m releasing my very first book soon! I can’t wait to share my message, testimony and transformation with the world regarding my battles and breakthroughs with toxic relationships and brokenness.

It am in expectation that this book will heal somebody!

 

 

 

Trust it…

Trust the process, even if you can’t see the end results. Sometimes, you go through trials and challenges, delays and set backs. Those are part of the process.

The process is there to teach us, grow us, restore us and remind us that we are destined for more than what we are settling for.

Sometimes, the process lasts longer than others simply because we didn’t learn our lesson or it is preparing us for something greater.

I feel that I’ve been in the process of learning more about myself daily and with that comes a humbling process. I thought I had it all figured out. By now, I thought I’d be married with 3.5 kids, a beautiful German Shepard or Collie (I love German Shepard’s), nice home and a debt free life.

Now, for somebody, that’s their reality and I ain’t mad at em! It’s not to say that their life is better. My path is different and I’m finally accepting the fact that it’s perfectly okay.

You may not have had the life you expected but it probably turned out far greater than you ever imagined.

Learning to be in gratitude for who I am becoming is a “process” that I go through. 

#Self-awareness

Oh, and Girl– Let me not forget patience, soul-searching and a lot of humble pie.

When you realize that your process is unique to you, the temptation of wanting to compare won’t be a factor.

 

I just published a You Tube video on this very subject. Make sure to check it out.

 

It’s here! That 30ish Life Podcast…

Hey! So, ya girl started a podcast. I’ve done the blogs and You Tube but I didn’t see this coming.  I’m officially a podcaster now alongside my good friend Rachon.

 

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It all started with an idea…

“We should start a podcast,” Rachon says.

“Oh, yeah, that sounds cute,” I said. What I really thought was, how in the heck is  that supposed to happen? I just listen…not record!

Can I be honest? I really didn’t think it would get this far. I gotta tell you…

It was a random conversation, something that was brought up but I didn’t think it would actually culminate to anything real since my follow through game is faulty at times. SMH

Team work is everything. If it was me…I might still be on phase procrastination-writing ideas down in my notebook and contemplating over them until I gave up and moved on to the next. I’m a serial procrastinator in the need of  a serious deliverance!

Well, with a team, I have accountability so giving up wasn’t an option. Rachon suggested that we start having meetings to discuss what we would talk about, our focus for the podcast and all that jazz.

Oh, so this is actually a real thing, I thought. We are really getting ready to launch a podcast?

 

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Since our schedules are equally crazy, I suggested that we meet on Friday evenings during Christion’s track meet practices so I wouldn’t sacrifice time with him. That’s my son, by the way if  you’re a newbie.

This became a very organized mission. We had agendas, meeting minutes, a next plan of action, research—we are officially getting ready to be iTunes, SoundCloud and Google Play official.

Weeks went by, meeting agendas set, action plans in full effect and Facebook live episodes on replay. Then, it eventually came down to technical conversations. What mic would we use? What platform is good for hosting? How long are podcast episodes? What is our layout? How do you even record a podcast? Setting up for i Tunes and SoundCloud? Is there a manual for this? Lawd, help us!

As I digress, I realize that we’ve come a very long way. What was simply an idea/suggestion turned out to be way more. It’s all still a work in progress but what I can say is this, we started it and that’s what matters most. It is a movement that will help so many women around the world! And BOOM! There it is, That 30ish Life became a real thing.

 

 

 

We set a date for the release of the very first episode back in January. I remember thinking…March is so far away but that time crept up with a quickness. Between the Facebook groups and Instagram posts..meetings/schedule conflicts, graphic design whammies, March definitely came super fast. Planning was the main thing. You must have a plan no matter what. It’s the one thing that allowed this idea to become a reality. What more can I say, if it wasn’t for accountability….where would I be?

March 10th…the official release date.

That 30ish Life Podcast was born because two women decided to use their voices to empower, uplift and unite single, women in their 30’s who are on a mission toward self-improvement. We did it. We launched the very first episode!

New beginnings…

The number 8 represents new beginnings. Since starting 2018, I’ve had a few new beginnings, including this podcast launch which I’m very proud of.

This episode is the first of many and will inspire, encourage, empower and motivate amazing queens throughout the world to be their very best.

I believe that this podcast will influence others to live in purpose and to let go of the past. This is a year of new beginnings not just for myself but for those who actually want to make a conscious effort to do more and who are willing to obey the calling on their life.

 

Why a podcast?

Well, let’s see. I think it started when I discovered the world of podcasting about a year ago. I’d heard about podcasts before but never fully discovered the full essence of them nor did I make myself available to listen. I think I stumbled upon someone’s social media page that featured a link for a podcast episode. At that time and still now, I am trying to expose my ear gate to something other than the music choices that I still consider because there’s still a hint of rachetness lingering…another deliverance needed!

There is NOTHING wrong with music, by the way. I just felt the need to educate myself, hear a different perspective, get some wisdom, change it up a bit–you know.

So, eventually, my podcast library consisted of a little more than 10 different stations, all from different perspectives, but just enough to keep me interested.  I listen as I clean the house, drive home from work, at the grocery store and whenever I feel like it. I am really into podcasts now so what better way to start. Why not join the movement?

The That 30ish Life Podcast primarily focuses on minority single women in their 30’s who are on a mission toward self-improvement. They don’t follow the crowd and walk to their own tune. They are independent, smart, sophisticated, opinionated, melanated, and open for controversial dialogue with other like-minded individuals.

The myth that we MUST have something wrong with us if we aren’t married and knocked up by 29 has been dispelled. How dare you hit your 30’s without the ring and the baby on the way? Shame on it all.

This is the unfortunate stigma that has been placed on our generation, especially women of color. We are pressured about the husband, kids, career—it becomes overwhelming to the point that you automatically feel something is wrong with you all because you don’t fall into the category that everyone thinks you should be in.

From what I’ve witnessed from most of my friends, peers or other women in this age group is that we are game changers. Our lives don’t mirror that of our parents/grandparents. We are marrying later, having babies much farther down the road and starting our businesses faster. We are stepping into our purpose and making moves for our future generations. We are reclaiming our time! Go head, Maxine, for making that proclamation.

All of what is meant for you will come. Trust God’s timing!

Quite honestly, you can’t determine your life based on other people’s limited perception of you. Times have changed, life is different. I had my son at 25, unwed…

Whether you are 30, 40, 50 or beyond, you have the right to be authentically you, unapologetically.

So, get to it. What are you starting this year?

  • A book
  • Podcast
  • You tube channel
  • Blog
  • Song/Album
  • Ministry
  • Business

Your calling is not just for you to fulfill on this earth but for the next soul who needs to “heal” from your testimony.

Congratulations to That 30ish Life and the hosts Kristen and Rachon!

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